PUT DOWN THE PHONE (I’m trying, but I can’t!)

“Put down the phone,” I bark to myself, and I know I need to.  But I don’t.  The device is engineered to be engaging, and the information is so intriguing – why, my social media feeds contain the latest headline news, and what my friends are doing and what they care about — which is all quite relevant to my life – and then an email arrives from a colleague with a new task awaiting my attention, a task which really matters.  There’s the familiar ping – incoming text – it’s Mom with a report on what my daughter and grandson are up to.  And I’m somewhat embarrassed to admit this, but I spend a lot of time on my phone doing word games, too.  The dopamine hit from completing one puzzle always makes me want to start the next, and as a result I’m nearly 4,000 levels in.  I do these games to help manage my stress and energy, in other words, to keep myself in the “flow.”

Indeed, I’m so absorbed, I often lose track of time.  Is this not the very definition of “flow state,” the super-productive mindset that coaches, therapists, and scientists exhort us to attain?

Yes.  But.

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Bunny Fitzgerald’s Barefoot Manifesto: A Review

Bunny is a writer and jazz singer who’s built a following on Instagram (@bunny_fitzgerald) and Patreon (patreon.com/bunnyfitzgerald) by chronicling her barefoot lifestyle.  Her new book, “The Barefoot Manifesto:  How I stopped Wearing Shoes and Started Living,” is a deeply personal, lyrical, and forceful account of why she walks this interesting path.  But the book is not a practical guide to foot health.  Nor is it about style.  Rather, Bunny positions the manifesto as a “book about freedom” with the key themes being personal sovereignty and the primacy of sensation.

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Bunny Fitzgerald’s Barefoot Manifesto: A Review

Some Thoughts on Mental Toughness

In recent years I’ve noticed that mental toughness has become a popular meme on social media.  The topic reflects people’s aspirations for meaningful achievement.  It draws energy, too, from concerns about our increasingly sedentary lifestyle.  These concerns are not new.  In his 1963 Sports Illustrated article, “The Soft American,” President John F. Kennedy reminded us of the link between physical fitness and moral courage.  Warned of the deterioration in strength and health already apparent at that time (this was twenty years before the obesity epidemic took off, leaving us today with 74% of Americans overweight or obese).  In 2016 Angela Duckworth argued in her bestseller, Grit, that our society needs more passion and perseverance.  In 2018 ultra-athlete and former SEAL David Goggins published his memoirs, Can’t Hurt Me, rallying followers with his trademark exhortation — “stay hard.”  Three years later, in the aptly-titled The Comfort Crisis, Michael Easter advocated for embracing pain as the key to happiness.  Steve Magness’s new book, Win the Inside Game, which follows on the heels of his 2022 bestseller, Do Hard Things, offers specific mental strategies for toughness, drawn from his experience as an Olympic coach and performance scientist, which contrast with the traditional narrative of machismo.

My new book, Chasing the Grid, should serve as a useful case study for many of these themes.  The story follows my adventures in the Catskill Mountains while working on a big peak-bagging project (it comprised over 400 separate ascents).  In addition to the mileage and elevation gain, I had to overcome the challenges of terrain, weather, fatigue, injury, and age.  The narrative showcases mental techniques that helped me execute against my goals.  It also shares my mistakes and frustrations. Continue reading “Some Thoughts on Mental Toughness”

Some Thoughts on Mental Toughness