PUT DOWN THE PHONE (I’m trying, but I can’t!)

“Put down the phone,” I bark to myself, and I know I need to.  But I don’t.  The device is engineered to be engaging, and the information is so intriguing – why, my social media feeds contain the latest headline news, and what my friends are doing and what they care about — which is all quite relevant to my life – and then an email arrives from a colleague with a new task awaiting my attention, a task which really matters.  There’s the familiar ping – incoming text – it’s Mom with a report on what my daughter and grandson are up to.  And I’m somewhat embarrassed to admit this, but I spend a lot of time on my phone doing word games, too.  The dopamine hit from completing one puzzle always makes me want to start the next, and as a result I’m nearly 4,000 levels in.  I do these games to help manage my stress and energy, in other words, to keep myself in the “flow.”

Indeed, I’m so absorbed, I often lose track of time.  Is this not the very definition of “flow state,” the super-productive mindset that coaches, therapists, and scientists exhort us to attain?

Yes.  But.

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Transcend What?

In his noteworthy 2020 book, Transcend: The New Science of Self-Actualization, Scott Barry Kaufman builds upon the work of pioneering humanist Abraham Maslow (1908-1970) to offer a 21st-century definition of “transcendence,” together with a review of scientific techniques for healing, growth, and self-actualization.

In a previous article,[i] I offered a quantitative definition of transcendence, yet one that was inspired by the 19th-century American Transcendentalist tradition, whose most famous authors include Ralph Waldo Emerson, Walt Whitman, Henry David Thoreau, John Burroughs, and John Muir.  Staring with a metaphor for transcendence, I suggested the act of climbing a mountain, crossing a range, reaching the other side.  Although to be clear, “transcendence” is not a place you reach.  It is not a target end-state.  Better to think of it as a vector, consisting of a direction (“up”) and a distance (how far you can climb), except we’re interested in maximizing happiness, rather than elevation.  The best way to maximize happiness, according to the American Transcendentalists, is to spend time in nature.  This is because the Transcendentalists saw exposure to “wild” environments as necessary for developing spiritual power.  Bear in mind the Transcendentalists were writing during the mid- to late-19th century, when America was rapidly industrializing and urbanizing, and the frontier was already starting to close. Continue reading “Transcend What?”

Transcend What?